“Women are the sex that is chased and desired by men, it’s natural for us to relinquish ourselves and our needs with men. When we don’t have a firm footing in our own identity, we can give away ourselves, we give away too much of our power. Sometimes we do it because we never had a guy pursue us so we latch on, or because of daddy issues, or because we’re extremely broken by life, or because we have low self-esteem. But, when we do this with men who aren’t good, who aren’t surrendered to Jesus and walking with Holy Spirit to do life, it’s a very dangerous thing, because as Lizzo points out, “when it’s time they often let us down.”

Seele contributor, @rebekahmazzei points out how we live in a world that measures accolades, status, wealth, homes, cars, vacations, social media following, fashion and so much more. We want to be heard, we want to be seen, we want to be praised, we want to be recognized, we want to be loved. What do we want? What do we really long for? The answer could be connectivity because in a world that is so fast paced, we often find ourselves surrounded by people, yet we still go home feeling isolated. The answer could be comfort though we have family, friends, and comforts of wealth, yet we still go home feeling incomplete. She proposes the answer is Identity.

"Living in the Far East definitely opened my horizon to a very different kind of thinking," says Silvia.