From Single And Not In A Relationship To Married

The Irrational Hope of a single woman in God’s promise of marriage

Over 3 years ago, I embarked on a journey where I decided to stop dating and wait on the Lord for my husband.  The decision was mostly motivated by a couple of failed, toxic and emotionally scaring relationships I had been in prior to that, and I knew that I needed a change.

I began to pray to the Lord for a husband, not a relationship, not a fling, a HUSBAND, and at the age of 27 years I thought I was ready, and it was long overdue.

What I didn’t know is that when I said I was ready and prayed to the Almighty God for a husband, He said yes, but not yet, and began to make me ready.  Because the truth is that age does not make one ready for marriage, God does.  I was about as ready as the Apostle Peter was in Luke 22 when he said that he was ready to go with Jesus Christ wherever He goes, even to the death and then subsequently denied Him three times.  You see, in actuality I was not ready and the Lord needed to get me to a place of ready.

The Lord has called me to sit still and wait to see how the matter turns out, He has already showed me my husband and the one my heart beats for, I met him early this year on the 1st of April.  God’s heart and perfect plan was before my eyes that day and I don’t even know if he knew it then.  After having seen and met my future husband, and observed his character and seen the inner man, I was excited and wanted things to happen swiftly, but the Lord said to me, at the appointed time you will become one.

Now to many people this might be delusional, crazy and in some cases insane (to be as single as I am not even dating anyone and declare that I am getting married soon) but this is the most confirmed promise in my life and I would be crazy not to believe the Lord when He says He is taking me from single to married, because we serve a God who no matter how long it takes, He is never late with the promise 2Peter 3:9 in the NKJV says: “The Lord is not slack concerning the promise, as some count slackness, but is longsuffering towards us, not willing that any should perish but that all should come to repentance.”

I write this, not from a place of being married, but I write this from my waiting place and wanting to encourage many others who find themselves in the same place I find myself, 3 years later still waiting and still believing that soon I will get married, many of us have had eyes rolled at us as we continue to declare God’s blessing over our lives I want us to continue to hold fast the confession of our faith, for our hope is not in man but God.  Watch as those that continue to hope in the Lord go from relationship status of single to married.

Man can disappoint but God is faithful.